Interested to see some earlier messages (c2000) re Stonehams. I have been tracing the family for many years can confirm that the Church you mention was St Paulinus Crayford. Many Stonehams are buried there starting with William Stoneham buried 1728 and include most of the Russell-Stoneham branch of the family up to 1950s. Prior to 1700 the Stonehams were prevalent in the Sevenoaks area of Kent. The stained glass window was donated by Frederick Stoneham (1814-1878) who married Martha Russell of Swanscombe in 1869. He was responsible for the builiding of Orchard House in Perry Street in 1863. The Stoneham Family bequeathed this to the District of Crayford in 1933 and it became the Russell-Stoneham Maternity Hospital, it is now a British Legion Home.
William Stoneham's descendants also included another Frederick Stoneham (born 1872 in Peckham), a Photographers Manager, who married Nellie Bond in 30.9.1895 at St Jude's Church Peckham and they had a son , Ronald Bond Stoneham born 21.6.1912 in Peckham. I believe that these are your father and grandfather.
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I would be pleased to share additional details. I would be also interested in obtaning from you addtional info re the Frederick and Nellie (Bond) Stoneham branch of the family, I believe they also had other children - Nellie Bond Stoneham, Frederick Bond Stoneham and Rene Bond Stoneham.
Regards Peter Blake